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Yes, parents need to help. No, let your kids grow up!
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 Yes, parents need to help. (1)
 No, let your kids grow up! (6)

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Is helicopter parenting effective?

"The book shows that so-called 'helicopter parenting' is pronounced. Twenty-seven percent of undergraduates say they’ve asked their parents to intervene in problems with professors or employers. Seventy-six percent of colleges and universities report increases in parent involvement and intervention'" (Khadaroo 1). 

Yes, parents need to help.

Side Score: 1

No, let your kids grow up!

Side Score: 6
1 point

Helicopter parents are not all bad, sometimes they can have good effects stated by Sara Lipka, a reporter from the Chronicle of Higher Education states in her artical,"The report evaluates institutions' performances in five categories: level of academic challenge, active and collaborative learning, student-faculty interaction, enriching educational experiences, and supportive campus environment" (Lipka 1). This shows how it can stimulate effective learning processes, and even how when the students get to college they would be able to have a taste of freedom and be able to have more social opportunites. Also stated in the paragraph "Students whose parents intervene on their behalf--38 percent of freshmen and 29 percent of seniors--are more active in and satisfied with college" (Lipka 1). This shows how when students get to college they are able to show improvement and have freedom and stand on their own to feet.

Side: Yes, parents need to help.
1 point

Helicopter parenting is not effective. It doesnt show kids how to take care of themselves. They become relient on their parents and expect them to help them no matter what the situation is. To deal with this new phenomenon, about 70 percent of the nation's four-year colleges and universities now employ parent coordinators, whose duties typically include organizing campus events for annual parent weekends, producing regular newsletters, and staffing telephone hotlines ("Lum" 1). Children now days don't know how to deal with being on their own and how to move on passed their parents. They don't seem to know what to do in situations when school or jobs may become difficult and fall back and assume that their parents will be there to just deal with the situation for them. Kids now days need to learn to deal with these situations on their own.

Side: No, let your kids grow up!
1 point

Helicopter parenting is not as effective as allowing a child who has become a legal adult to become independent and rely on themselves. An independent adult compared to an overprotective adult, is better prepared for the world and college being that they had the priviledge to grow, make and learn from their mistakes, and have had the chance to cope in such an environment. Helicopter parenting promotes over-confidence, low basic work skills, and lack of abiltity and experience in children thus stunting a child to fully develop mentally and emotionally(Khadaroo 1). For example, a child with a helicopter parent who is used to having their parent do everything for them such as calling professors to alter a grade, will never learn how to handle a situation like the one presented. They may suffer from stress and being overwhelmed since they are amatuers to dealing with problems on their own, and are now required to cope on their own.

Side: No, let your kids grow up!
1 point

Helicopter parents have their child's best interest in mind but it's not helping them. By constanly pushing and making decisons for their children they are denying them the rights and freedoms of making their own choices. When you become a "helicopter parent" towards your child you are making them more neurotic, more dependent and less open to new things (Helicopter Parents). A child needs to grow up and learn for themselves rather than to have choices made for you.

Side: No, let your kids grow up!
1 point

People have criticized helicopter parents for over protecting their children, failing to instill them with a sense of independence and a can-do attitude(About1). Sooner or later the children will have to be self reliable. They will eventually live on their own, providing for themselfs and maybe a family. If they always have had their parents telling them what to do and how to do it, when and where do they learn to be self reliable? One dads phone call to a proffesor left his son feeling very insecure and incapable, not empowered and supported(NBC1). A little support may be fine but this example shows that maybe parents should just back off a bit. When this happens, it allows children to feel more capable of themselves, and more able to support themselves.

Side: No, let your kids grow up!
1 point

Helicopter parenting is ineffective. It doesn't help children to develop the necessary skills to be adults. If there are adults still dependent on their parents for every decision, there's no possible way that those adults could operate as functional memebers of society. According to Christan Science Monitor, many employers have noticed that recently hired employees lack certain abilities and social skills to handle having a career (Khadaroo 1). They're incapable of performing in a workforce that requires them to be independent.

Side: No, let your kids grow up!
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Helicopter parenting is not effective. To allow children to succeed with what they do, they need to learn resposibility and independence. When students aren't allowed to do their homework or school projects on their own, they will start to lack confidence in work they do themselves (Khadaroo 1). Lack of confidence makes it hard for students to succeed because they won't trust the work they do. They will always need someone to check their work. This could be detrimental when they reach higher level learning because that is more idea based and not just about repeating facts back to teachers. Students also need to talk to teachers for themselves. If they allow their parents to fight all their battles, they will never learn how to talk to other people in authority for the rest of their lives.

Side: No, let your kids grow up!